You walked away from a toxic relationship with your parents. Now what?

You walked away from a toxic relationship with your parents. Now what?

I always find myself every morning at the same fork in the road. The one that “I’m so happy I am finally free from the narcissistic abuse” and “I am so sad that I’m missing out on all the fun things I see my friends families doing together”. So where do I go from here? How do I live without denial, I accept what has unfortunately happened to me, and live my best life. Going through this for more then half of my life, I came up with steps that are helpful for those triggersituations and how to look forward to your new awesome life!

Tip 1: Let’s take a moment to actually pat yourself on the back! You did it! You realized these people or person was so toxic that it didn’t serve a purpose in your life anymore. That is something that should never go unrecognized. And if no one has told you, I am very proud of you.

Tip 2: Start researching, but don’t let the research or other people’s stories consume you. It’s always good to look up inspirational quotes and books to dive into. But please remember to not compare yourself to others stories. I want you to take this time to really make it about you. Chances are, your toxic parents or parent never made your priorities number one. So here is your chance! You’re important.

Tip 3: It never hurts to talk to a therapist. A lot of people get kind of uncomfortable telling a complete stranger their problems. The way I see it, you can’t really have one of your close friends really understand how you feel unless they went through it. Having a trained professional really help you dig deep and help you heal is very important.

Tip 4: Find out what makes you special. I really didn’t get to discover my true self till about the age of twenty five and I’m still learning! It’s most likely your parents didn’t let you express yourself during the important stages of your life. So let’s find out what you love to do and how you can show off your shine to the world! Sometimes getting on a yoga mat, meditating in the bath, learning new things, cooking, creating a loving and safe home for yourself can help you dig deep and express your true self.

Tip 5: There will always betriggers both big and small. Mine are at weddings and seeing the parents give their daughters away or slow dancing with their dad. The looks on their faces and looking so fulfilled makes me drift off into my sad little world, but I’ve learned to stop that within time. My advice would be mentally prepare yourself for these feelings and to learn to accept the cards you were unfortunately dealt. This is where talking with a therapist can really be so fundamental!

In these situations I will be the first to admit I have stomped and screamed how unfair it is that I didn’t have the proper upbringing, but I am proud of you for coming this far! It’s your life and you call the shots now!



  1. December 27, 2017 / 4:16 am

    Nice pieces of encouragement to lift you up. It throws good ideas to overcome challenges. Thanks

      December 27, 2017 / 4:41 am

      Thank you so much!!

  2. December 28, 2017 / 1:38 am

    I love this so much! I can 100% relate since I come from a very similar situation. We have to remember to always stay strong! Xoxo

      December 28, 2017 / 6:55 pm

      I’m so sorry you come from a situation like this! So much love to you! Xo

      December 28, 2017 / 6:54 pm

      Thanks xo

  3. December 28, 2017 / 3:37 pm

    I left my parents (and sister) behind when I was 18. No regrets! They would have destroyed my relationship with my husband and bled me dry (financially and emotionally). Sometimes you just need to make the tough decisions, for the right reasons! 🙂

      December 28, 2017 / 5:44 pm

      Omg I absolutely love this! Thank you so much for commenting and I am so happy you are doing what’s right for you!

  4. January 3, 2018 / 6:19 pm

    Nice piece, I recognize it from another blog that came across my Facebook didn’t know you wrote it. Would love to read in depth and more about your experience with this 💜

      January 3, 2018 / 6:22 pm

      It was posted on someone’s Facebook? Thank you so much that means a lot! I’m having a Blogging party tomorrow on my page around 1pm! I hope you come join! It just lets other bloggers get to know each other xo

      • January 3, 2018 / 6:26 pm

        Yea it was the same exact article but on another blogging site that was being shared over on Facebook a couple of months ago had no idea it was yours!! 1p.m EST? I’ll keep in on my radar and maybe I’ll join ya! Thanks for inviting and letting me know! Wishing you a great day!

          January 3, 2018 / 6:32 pm

          That’s so weird! I just wrote it last month and decided to post it! Yes EST! I hope you join

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